How to Write a Wedding Toast that is Heartfelt and Unforgettable

By Meb McMahon | Wedding Officiant | WowsAndVows.com

So, you've been asked to give a wedding toast maybe as the best man, maid of honor, or a beloved friend.

You're honored and also a little nervous. Where do you even start?

Don't worry, I've helped guide countless wedding ceremonies and receptions. I'm here to walk you through crafting a memorable wedding toast that's authentic, loving, and just the right amount of funny.

PREPARE, EVEN FROM THE HEART

Yes, the best wedding speeches feel heartfelt and spontaneous but trust me, preparation is key.

- Keep it short and sweet: 57 seconds max.

- Jot down your key points; don't try to memorize it all.

- Practice out loud at least a few times before the big day.

WHEN IT'S TIME TO SPEAK

Ask the DJ or MC to introduce you with something like: "Ladies and Gentlemen, please turn your

attention to the head table. A member of the wedding party has something special to share."

THE PERFECT TOAST STRUCTURE:

1. Introduce Yourself

2. Thank the Couple and the Guests

3. Share a Story

4. Highlight Their Love

5. Raise a Glass

6. End with a Wish

FINAL TOAST TIPS:

- Don't try too hard to be funny.

- Use notes.

- Practice makes polished.

- Keep the focus on the couple.

With love and experience,

Meb McMahon

Lead Officiant at Wows and Vows | wowsandvows.com

How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows: A Step-by-Step Guide for a Personal Touch

Make your big day unforgettable with heartfelt, personal vows. Discover how to write your own wedding vows with this easy, step-by-step guide.

How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows That Truly Reflect Your Love

Your wedding vows are the most personal part of your ceremony—a chance to share your story, your promises, and your love. If you're wondering how to write your own vows, you're not alone. Many couples want vows that feel authentic and memorable. Here’s how to create vows that speak from the heart and make your ceremony unforgettable.

Why Write Your Own Wedding Vows?

Writing your own vows allows you to:

• Personalize your ceremony

• Express your unique relationship

• Make your partner feel truly seen and loved

• Share your story with guests in your own words

  
  

Whether you're romantic, witty, or poetic, your vows should reflect your personality and commitment.

Step-by-Step Guide to Writing Your Own Vows

1. Reflect on Your Relationship: Think about your journey as a couple. What moments defined your love? What do you admire most about your partner?

2. Decide on a Tone: Will your vows be romantic, humorous, poetic—or a mix? Decide what tone feels right for you and your partner.

3. Make a Promise: At their core, vows are promises. Include at least one meaningful commitment (e.g., “I promise to always support your dreams”).

4. Include Personal Stories: Add 1–2 brief anecdotes that show why your love is special. These make your vows memorable and unique.

5. Keep It Short and Sweet: Aim for 1–2 minutes when spoken aloud. Practice reading them to ensure they feel natural and genuine.

6. Write, Edit, Repeat: Start early and revise. It’s okay if the first draft isn’t perfect—great vows come from editing.

Sample Wedding Vow Template

"From the moment we met, I knew you were someone special. I love the way you [insert personal trait]. I promise to [insert vow], to support you through [insert challenge], and to celebrate every joy we share. I choose you, now and forever."

Final Thoughts on Writing Your Own Vows

Writing your own wedding vows is a beautiful way to personalize your ceremony and honor your love story. Don’t stress about perfection—speak from the heart, and your words will be perfect.

Go Big and Go Bow

Have you heard?  In 2024, bows are everywhere.  They are the latest trend in bridal embellishment.  Look for them on waistlines, shoulders, even bridal combs.  This year a bow can "tie together" your bridal aesthetic. Some brides are even replacing their veils with bows.  How do you decide to incorporate them into your 2024 look?

When considering a veil or bow to complement your dress, consider the style of your gown. Veils remain a timeless classic and come in varied lengths from fingertip to floor-sweeping.  Bow are on-trend and add whimsy, opting for one if you're wearing and illusion back or off-the-shoulder neckline.  Focus on your personality and vision for the aesthetic of your special day.

Veils offer versatility.  You can easily switch between a casual cathedral length for photos to a more dramatic long train for your first dance. Bows demand attention as a focal accent, perfect if you want a splash of color, ribbon or intricate details.  Experiment trying on both to see how each makes you feel. Your attitude is key. Choose the accessory that lifts your spirit.